tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2854993757810609589.post7437808867363352025..comments2023-04-15T06:52:23.592-07:00Comments on Diana's Body Journey: To vent or not to ventDianahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04912893452584170970noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2854993757810609589.post-90050884910658489582009-05-01T09:58:00.000-07:002009-05-01T09:58:00.000-07:00You know, when we can't find it in ourselves t...You know, when we can't find it in ourselves to be direct with our partners, we resort to the negative venting. My 13 year old son called me on it, said, "you and dad are always complaining about each other to me. I hate it. Stop it!" Now that was a wake-up call! Now I'm trying really hard to be direct with hubby when he pisses me off (no, I don't swear at him, or throw tantrums--but man, is it a challenge to say what I mean & be willing to hear him out, too).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2854993757810609589.post-15141374807303055782009-04-27T06:11:00.000-07:002009-04-27T06:11:00.000-07:00Yup, you are completely right. Negativity breeds n...Yup, you are completely right. Negativity breeds negativity. Seth's suggestion is a good one, about trying to steer the conversation to a more positive angle. It might work, it might not.<br /><br />I have a friend who I rarely see now b/c all she would ever talk about is how much her boss sucks and how bratty/annoying/terrible her kids are. I didn't want that to start informing how I feel about my son, so I started to cut her off. I stopped getting her facebook updates (b/c they were all negative, too) and that really helped. Now, I can be friends with her on a certain level but I'm not all stressed out about it. <br /><br />You are wise to be thinking about this! GOOD LUCK!!!Felice Devinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18038461010518039172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2854993757810609589.post-64456979563806531652009-04-25T17:41:00.000-07:002009-04-25T17:41:00.000-07:00This is a great post! And so true. Negativity br...This is a great post! And so true. Negativity breads fast! If you're not careful, before you know it, all you're doing is venting!Nataliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14999334781498930101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2854993757810609589.post-36733112489450714942009-04-24T13:24:00.000-07:002009-04-24T13:24:00.000-07:00I think there's a balance to be found between remo...I think there's a balance to be found between removing ourselves from negative situations and taking the time to steer specific situations back toward positive light. <br /><br />The next time your friend starts to go off about her guy, try steering the conversation away from him and back into things you find interesting about your friend or whatever it is you're doing at the time. It's lovely to have a friend who listens. It's miraculous to find a friend who helps us put things in a better light. <br /><br />And about those late-night sweets...check out my "5 questions" post on getting inside hunger. It made a huge difference in how I go about eating today. Real life solutions allow for frozen Cadbury eggs at 1am with a glass of milk...because sometimes nothing else fits the bill. =) <br /><br />Best to you!Seth Simondshttp://primalstride.comnoreply@blogger.com