Thursday, August 13, 2009

End of exams :) and the disillusionment of the niceness of bloggers :(

Qualifying exams just ended today, so maybe (?) my blogging will resume. My brain hurts (I know, brains don't have pain receptors. Try explaining that to my head though :). But, I want to thank you for your support.

Even if I haven't posted, I have kept up with y'all. After all, it probably kept me a little sane(r)!
I posted my support of a blog called we are the real deal before. Recently there has been some contraversy over there like no other I have ever seen on a blog. But, maybe that's because I surround myself with such supportive and inspiring women like most of you reading this post!

Go read it for yourself if you like Jerry Springer shows! Here's the run down if you don't have time or energy for that sort of thing. The creater decided to openly attack a digruntled, rude blogger. While I agree with most of the creator's message in that just because the contributors are thinner and attractive doesn't mean that they can't contribute to the struggles we all face. After all, body image issues and body acceptance is for everyone. However, i don't agree with responding to rude people in such a public mannor with such obvious rudeness/retalliation. And the things she said sounded (although she denies it) like a rant and anger post that you usually want to take back later.
Ok. We're all human and say crappy things. She apologized for part of it, and while I think there was more to apologize for, whatever. I was willing to put that aside, but the commenters remained on a ranting raging bash of the creator that the site is moving from one of potential greatness to one of hate and, as said before, bashing. *sigh*

I guess I wanted to "voice" this concern. I'd love to hear your take on all of this. For one, do you think that comment moderation is necessary? Does one troll hurt the quality of the blog as a whole by upsetting peope? And two, I've never had this problem, but I think I'd just ignore a rude person if I didn't moderate. How about you? Can't we all just support each other????


Dr. Wifey said...

i saw that post yesterday! i think moderation should be open, but mamaV totally went about a rebuttal to a rude comment in a horrible way. maybe she acted before she thought it through. anyway, she ticked off a LOT of people and consequently lost a lot of respect and readers.

oh, and glad you survived quals!!! when do you get results???

Diana said...

Don't get them until the 25th or later! ugh. I guess I'll just have to

I agree with you. She did lose a lot of respect and did handle it poorly. I just hope they/she can redeem the site. It has had a pretty good message and it'd be a shame if they couldn't do anymore good because of what I consider a collosal mistake on her part.

Lesson of the day: never blog angry!

Katie J ♥ said...

I haven't had to use the comment moderation and hope I won't have to. I have even removed the word verification and haven't had any issues thus far.

Thanks for the cliff note version (teehee) :-) Maybe she should have waited until the next day and if it still mattered then she could have constructed a proper letter after thinking about it some more.

NV said...

Well done on getting through your exams! Hope you are enjoying some extra free time now.

I had a quick look at the real deal and all the controversy!! Wow.. things are going a little bit crazy over there eh. Maybe it's necessary in order to truly define it's purpose? Maybe it's just the way people are. I dunno.

I don't bother with comment moderation because well for starters I have very few commenters :) If I ever get a nasty comment as opposed to a comment that just disagrees with something I said then I would prob just delete it. If it's a valid point or disagreement then I would hopefully try to discuss it rationally or just leave it on view as an alternative option...

Of course all easy to say when it has never happened to me!

(P.S. not trying to be pushy (at all!!) and I know you were busy and are tired but just wondering if my last email got to you?)

Crabby McSlacker said...

Wow, just got back from WATRD, and it was depressing/fascinating!

It's interesting how there is so much conflict and resentment bubbling just beneath the surface. A few careless words get tossed around and it all comes to the surface.

While it's ugly and messy, it's at least interesting to hear where everyone is coming from! I had no idea there were so many hard feelings between women fighting for self-acceptance in different ways.

Felice Devine said...

Wow. Hadn't seen that. I can't handle that kind of stuff. It just brings me down!

have a good weekend!