Thursday, January 8, 2009

Work to do

So much for my "resolution" to be nicer to myself! I was thinking this morning about what you all said (and this afternoon hit the message home for sure)...I guess I still have work to do in the be nice to myself department. It's funny how you can be your own worst critic, yet I would never think that about other people. It's like an anorexic that can see that other people are thin or that they look good at a healthy weight, but that see themselves as fat. In fact, SeaBreeze was right - if I heard any one of you say something like that to yourself I'd be upset.

It's something I'm trying to work on. It was just such a shock to see that pic - it's not what I thought I looked like at all. I forgot all the things I believe about others and tell myself all the time. I know it's not the worst position to be in. There are a lot of people that would kill to be where I'm at. It seems selfish and unsensative to think that way, doesn't it? When there's people that would be ecstatic to look like I do.

I guess this will have to work hard on being healthier in all ways, not just physically.


Felicia said...

I have said it before and I will say it again and again and again..

The hardest part of the whole journey to losing weight that I faced was not the actual losing of poundage but the mental baggage I had accumulated over way to many years to count. I never thought life would be perfect at the end of the rainbow but I had no clue how messed up my thinking had gotten till I lost the weight and faced what I was left with over all.

Its not just healthier foods and exercise. Its healthier thinking. We didn't get fat because we were happy lol. Unfortunately sometimes we think we will get happy as we get thinner. Life gets physically easier, the rest of it well lol it all depends on the day.

Its a process chickie and you are doing great on it. Its ok to see the bad in ourselves. After all how do we fix it if we don't recognize it. But its equally important to find the good to and not only claim it but believe in it.

I am still working on that part myself.

Love yourself!! Cuz we sure do!

Have a super day!

Confessions of a Wandering Soul said...

Firstly heres a biiig bear hug ((((((((hugz)))))))) for a beautiful soul :). I could feel your pain cus I was like you too once( I am still slightly but Im working hard on it). I used to cry at every photos of me.I couldnt stand my own sight.Whenever I looked at my photos, I would wonder who that demon is, staring right back at me. Would you believe this? My hubby and I love travelling and he loves snapping pics of me away.I would make him delete all the photos I was in .These are supposed to be beautiful memories we are supposed to look back at and share with our kids.I did not realise the pain I was putting him through then.I was too overwhelmed by my own inner demons. But now I make an constant effort to pose for him whenever we travel.I TRY not to use the word 'delete'.I may have succeeded in losing weight but I've not succeeded in my esteem department yet.Still working hard at it and Im not gona give up.Please dont be hard on yourself.This is just a passing cloud. Hang in there and remind yourself that you are doing GREAT!!!Baby steps...........

Confessions of a Wandering Soul said...

Oh heres one more thing that has helped me all along. Just write down the beautiful qualities you have, one day at a time. At the end of the month, you would be surprised to see something pleasant staring you right at your face.Sometimes we need to see it in order to believe it.We are all beautiful souls who deserve the utmost respect and love from no one else, but us alone. Its just a pity that we are so hard on ourselves.Hope this helps :).

MizFit said...

so often the physical is the smallest piece huh?
its when the emotional falls into place that the weight falls by the wayside.

let me know if I can help!

Natalia said...

I struggle with the same thing.

The Happy Runner said...

Yup, it's so not just physical.

Have a great weekend -- think good things about yourself!

Mark said...

"I guess this will have to work hard on being healthier in all ways, not just physically." I agree for all of us this should be our goal! Have a nice weekend!

Confessions of a Wandering Soul said...


I could totally relate to your parting line, "I guess this will have to work hard on being healthier in all ways, not just physically." Believe it or not, this is one aspect that had got me thinking for sometime now and I blogged my thoughts away last night...Hope you are having a great day. See ya :)